January 28, 2014

The Single Girl Diaries-If I never heard it again it would be too soon...


At every stage in life there are those questions that are like nails on a chalkboard. Your senior year in high school it was "what college are your going to" or "what are you doing after you graduate?" When you get married it's "when are you going to have a baby" and "when are you and the husband going to start trying?" 
Well, being single comes with its own list of questions and comments I wish I never had to hear again. Honestly, I think most people ask these questions with the most sincere of intentions. But, as the single girl on the receiving end of these questions and comments let me shed some light on how these really make us single peeps feel.

How are you still single? 

What you mean: You are one foxy lady. Is the world going to end because I cannot possibly understand why you're still single.
What we actually hear: Clearly you are carrying 5 gallons of crazy in a 2 gallon bucket. All your ex-boyfriends must have seen this because, well, they clearly elected NOT to put a ring on it.

You're next.
This statement is usually said at some bridal shower, bachelorette party, or wedding.

What you mean: A word of encouragement.
What we actually hear: I have actually no clue when you will actually get to do this. You just look pathetic sitting here with those longing, puppy dog eyes so I felt the need to pull some type of encouragement out of thin air. OR We hear: It has to be you next because the only single ones left are seniors in high school. But, if you don't hurry up they too will do this before you.

Your last boyfriend is an idiot for letting you go.

What you mean: Exactly what you said. Truth.
What we hear: This one isn't so much what we hear as where it takes our mind. In the moment, we take it as a compliment. Later though, we often find it as a reason to stroll down memory lane and start obsessing over what we could have changed that would have made "us" work. Maybe if I had never went off on him for not calling after work or maybe if I had been more…. You get the idea.

I really thought you and {:insert ex-boyfriends name:} were going to work.

What you mean: I have no flipping idea what you are even thinking saying this much less what you mean by it!
What we hear: If you couldn't make it work with him….well, good luck. He jet might be the "one that got away." 

Be patient.

What you mean: Again, I have no idea. This is like nails on a chalkboard for single girls. Yes, we know this, but telling us doesn't help especially when you are the same age as us and have been with the same guy since high school and have currently been married for 3 years.
What we hear: Nothing, absolutely nothing. You turn into the peanuts teacher because we don't want to hear this. We already know it so just a hug and a smile would suffice. Actually we would love just one time for you, when we are having our lonely moment, to agree with us that sometimes it really does just suck.

So consider yourselves now educated on all the things NOT to say to your single girlfriends or any other single girl for that matter.
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3 comments:

  1. I KNOW I KNOW I KNOW!!!
    i cringe when ppl say that im like really? Im sorry I didnt know there was a timeline! EYEROLL!
    XO
    Ellen from Ask Away
    www.askawayblog.com

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  2. Single ladies unite! Do people not know how this can drive somebody crazy. I especially hate the first one!!

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  3. Ugh the first one drives me nuts and always makes me feel so blah!

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