February 29, 2016

Verse of the Week - Deuteronomy 1:36

I wonder how tempted you were to skip over this post when you saw that this week's verse was coming from Deuteronomy. Deuteronomy is not usually a book that ignites passion and stirs interest at the mere mention - but as of lately I seriously just cannot get enough of this book. I have been sticking to a reading plan for my devotional time, {:which I will share with you tomorrow on the blog:} but everyday after I have read my devotions I find myself sneaking over to Deuteronomy for a little extra something, something. And it seriously NEVER disappoints.

Deuteronomy is simply Moses speaking to the Israelites in the fortieth year of their wilderness wanderings on the way to the promise land. This journey should have only taken about 11 days, yet here they were stuck in the wilderness for 40 years. Moses is speaking to the people what God has spoken to him. He reminds them of the promise God had set before them.  But he also speaks of how when told to take over the promise, possess the promise, they cowered back and therefore will never enter the promise.

In Deuteronomy 1:21 Moses says this to the people, "See the Lord your God has given you the land. Go up and take possession of it as the Lord, the God of your ancestors, told you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."

I wonder what "land" God has told you to step your foot on - a new job; starting that blog you keep putting off; calling that relative you have been holding at arms distance because of unforgivness; giving up the secure job to go for the job that is filled with uncertainty but would allow you to pursue what God has called you to.

Taking new land is scary an often takes a lot of work {:God told them to destory the people AND destroy the city - which means they were going to have to build a new one:}. Do not let the fear of the promise or the work in the promise cause you to shy away. The land is flowing with milk and honey you may just have to roll up your sleeves a dig a little before you find it. Thomas Edison once said:

Opportunity is often missed because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.

The reality of this story in Deuteronomy, as many of you would know, is all but two of them did not occupy the promise land given to them. Twelve of them scouted out the land but the promise looked a bit scary and it was going to take some work {:like killing a couple thousand people and tearing down the city to rebuild it:} to occupy the land.

I don't want to be one of the ten who sees the promise but never sets foot on the land. I want to be a Joshua and a Caleb that are not intimidated by the work or the fear that comes from new territory. I want to be the one who steps foot on the promise land and says "okay God, you said you would fight for me - here's your shot." I want to be the person who has a promise that I can pass down to my children. I want to be able to know that my decedents will possess the land because I have followed the Lord wholeheartedly."

Wholeheartedly following the Lord sound like sunshine and rainbows, but the truth is, it takes vulnerability and it takes courage. But don't forget your promise is on the other side of wholehearted living and following.

Anyone up for taking on some new land and inhabiting the promise with me?

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February 24, 2016

Get Your Wild On - The SIngle Girl Diaries

I decided at the beginning of 2015 that it was my year - my year to find "the one" that is. Only guess what? Yup, this is still the 'Single Girl Diaries' not the 'I Found my Tall Drink of Mochachino Diaries'.

So what is a single girl who is pushing the big 3-0 suppose to think when one of her deepest desires - to be a wife and mother has yet to be fulfilled? I talked to you about how it is easy to feel like I am living in God's Plan B for my life when my life has hardly unfolded the way I had hoped and dreamed it would since watching my first Disney princess movie. But I also know that if you are living in the will of God, there are no plan B's - only strategic and purposed plan As.

So what's the deal God? I know I have heard you promise me multiple times that I will be both of those things. You say you give us the desires of our heart, yet here I am approaching yet another one of life's milestones and still haven't seen one of my deepest and greatest desires fulfilled.

Last Monday, I shared around how God often leads us through the wilderness on the way to the promise. So maybe that is what this singleness season is. I still believe the promise of a husband and kids are coming, but right now I am simply in the wilderness where God is testing me, like he tested the Israelites, to see what is in my heart {:Deuteronomy 8:2:}.

I believe that my one day marriage won't just be good. I have prayed for years that I would have the most influential marriage in the world  {:hey, you have not because you ask not...so I got my 'ask' on...big time:}. Maybe I should have thought twice about this prayer because I believe now, in the wilderness of this single season, God is testing and humbling my heart because if what I prayed is what I truly want there is going to be a price I have to pay. I am going to have to get good at putting myself second. I am going to have to get good at being open and vulnerable. I am going to have to get good at trusting someone else with my well being. There is work God is doing in me in this wilderness season to test and prepare my heart for the promise ahead.

So if you are like me, and find this singleness stuff to be more of a wilderness treck while Destiny's Child 'Survivor' plays in the background rather than a Sunday stroll in the park while 'Wouldn't it Be Nice' plays then know that what you are fighting for and what God is doing in you is setting you up to receive the promise from a place of strength and grace.

Get your wild on sister singleness. It is worth it for the promise that lays on the other side.

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February 23, 2016

Why I Read my Bible

I have noticed that the moment you go into ministry or the moment you hightail it off to another country to go to Bible college, people have a lot of questions for you. A lot of those questions center around the idea of devotions and the Bible. Why do you read your Bible? When do you read your Bible? How do you read your Bible? Do you have to read it everyday? Why does your Bible look like a coloring book? What does the Bible say about {:insert most controversial topic of the moment:}?

I LOVE my Bible - to the point where I have days where simply opening it brings me to tears. For me it isn’t a book of ‘you must’ and ‘though shall nots.’ Rather, it is a book of grace teaching me and guiding me in the ways that please my Father. It is a book that teaches me how to fulfill everything He has planned for me in every season. This book is my proof that God is never silent. He is simply a page turn away from speaking to my heart.

This immense feeling of love and awe for the Bible has not always been the case. Prior to eight years ago Bibles in my home served more as dust magnets than road maps for life.

I was 21 before I ever got serious about reading my Bible, and can I be honest? I didn’t really enjoy doing. I had been given the Message Remix: Pause Bible which lays out a daily plan which has you read from the Old Testament and the New Testament each day for six days. On the seventh day you ‘pause’ and reflect on what you read that week.

When I got this Bible I knew God was really beginning to do something in my life and I wanted this Bible to do something more in my life than collect dust. So, I was super diligent about reading it everyday, but I had no flipping idea what in the world I was reading.

I remember the pastor who gave me the Bible asking how it was going and I told him exactly what I just told you. I was doing it, but the words were merely words on a very thin page. I was not having this life shattering, mind blowing revelation everyone talked about while they were reading it. He encouraged me and  I committed to persevering in hopes that one day I would get that rock-your-world-never-be-the-same revelation I had heard of. I don’t know how and I don’t know when, but the words on those thin pages began to mold, shape, and change my heart long before any realized revelation from the stories happened.

The words that once collected dust on my shelf were now the very words clearing the dust and cobwebs I had in my heart.

This is precisely what devotion is. Devotion is devoting yourself to a process - a process that isn’t about you, a process that isn’t always easy, a process that takes commitment, and a process that if you are unrelenting will change your life.

There is no prescription for what devotion looks like or how to read your Bible. It is the only book that you will ever open up and as you read it, you will find it reads you. It will speak to your season, your circumstance, and your deepest fears. It will bring hope when no words from man could ever bring hope. It will bring restoration to your soul when all the ways the world tells you to fix it have failed. It will reveal who you really are as you learn about the One who’s image you were created in.

Why do I read the Bible? Simple. My Daddy wrote it for me. What girl wouldn’t read the book her Daddy penned?
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February 22, 2016

Joshua 3:5 - Verse of the Week

Consecrate: the setting apart of all we are, all we have, and all we expect to be – to have God above it all.

This week’s verse practically walked off the page as I was reading it in Joshua last week. This was probably because I realized the Holy Spirit was trying to drive a point home.

It was only a few days before reading this verse that I was sitting and having a conversation with one of my friends, whose name happens to be Joshua. As we were chatting about something totally unrelated to any of this he stopped me and said he had it on his heart to tell me that this is going to be a massive year for me and that I needed to consecrate myself.

Truth be told, this second year Bible college student didn’t really know what consecrate meant. So I did what any good, solid, Christian girl does…forget about it.

Not even five days later as I was reading in Joshua I see this verse: “Joshua told the people, consecrate yourselves, for tomorrow the Lord will do amazing things among you.” Oh, hello neon sign…God wasn’t just clarifying what Josh had told me, he actually had a Joshua say the exact same thing to me only using different words! Okay, God. I got it.

I had to go and research what it means to consecrate yourself to the Lord in today’s context {:because in days of  sandals and man dresses it looked like washing yourself and your clothing – but here in this 21st century I have got the whole shower/cleanliness thing down:}.

A huge amount of consecration today is about prayer and devoting more time to God, His word, and actually giving God the time to speak to you. Consecration for me means making less time for watching movies with the girls and more time for watching the words of the Word come alive. It means guarding what my ears hear and my eyes see so that they are open and searching for what God hears and God sees.

I am sharing this verse because I do not believe it is for me to keep in my quiet time or hidden in my heart. This verse is meant for me to share because God wants to do a new and massive thing in you this year. A lot of this builds on to last weeks verse because just as Joshua was leading the Israelites out of the wilderness and into the promise land –the land they prayed for and were expectant for – God wants to lead you into your promise. But first, he wants you to prepare yourself to step into this promise. He wants you to set apart all you are, all you have, and all you expect to be in order to have and know Him above it all.

Are you ready? Are you ready for consecration so that you may see the promise of God fulfilled in your life? 

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February 18, 2016

Scriptures for Your Journey to Health

I have learned that incorporating Scriptures into every one of life's battles is essential to walking in the victory. I say walk in the victory because the war has already been won. We may not win every battle, but we know how the war ends - in victory. 
Healthy living has been one of those series of battles in my life when I have won some and lost some but I refuse to give up the fight because the cost is too great. And the cost is too great for you to. I have learned first hand the greater gift and blessing you can be to other people and the energy and stamina you have to do the things God has called you to when you make healthy living {:not obsessive living:} a priority in your life. 
Health is not about the number on the tag of your jeans or where the number the scale stops on when you step on. Health is about you, your body functioning, as it was intended to.
Here are some of the scriptures I have posted on my mirrors, written on notecards, and committed to memory along this journey. I hope they help and inspire you and create an arsenal of weaponry, as they have for me, as you fight the battle to become the healthiest and best version of yourself.
These scriptures are about eating and healing. The healing scriptures were necessary for me along the journey because though I was no longer behaving with an eating disorder, I still had the thoughts that come along with an eating disorder. You may not have an eating disorder but  I believe healing is necessary for any old thought patterns and behaviors along this journey.
  • Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. - 1 Corinthians 10:31
  • Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.” - 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
  • Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst. John 6:35
  • I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live, loving the Lord your God, obeying his voice and holding fast to him, for he is your life and length of days, that you may dwell in the land that the Lord swore to your fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, to give them.” - Deuteronomy 30:19-20
  • Man does not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the father. - Matthew 4:4
  • You satisfy me more than the richest feast. I will praise you with songs of joy. - Psalms 63:5
  • Let the weak say “I am strong!” – Joel 3:10
  • I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.” - Galatians 5:16
  • I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. - Philippians 4:13
  • No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. - 1 Corinthians 10:13
  • For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. - Hebrews 12:11
  • But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. - Galatians 5:16
  • But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified. - 1 Corinthians 9:27
  • Worship the Lord your God, and his blessing will be on your food and water. I will take away sickness from among you. – Exodus 23:25
  • I have heard your prayers and seen your tears; I will heal you. – 2 Kings 20:1

  • Have mercy on me, Lord, for I am faint; heal me, Lord for my bones are in agony. – Psalm 6:2

  • Lord my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me. – Psalms 30:2

  • Praise the Lord, my soul, and forget not all his benefits who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases. – Psalm 103:2-3

  • But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed. – Isaiah 53:5

  • Is this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loosen the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free and break every yoke? – Isaiah 58:6

  • Nevertheless, I will bring health and healing to it; I will heal my people and will let them enjoy abundant peace and security. – Jeremiah 33:6

  • Whatever they plot against the Lord he will bring to an end; trouble will not come a second time. – Nahum 1:9

  • Immediately her bleeding stopped and she felt in her body that she was freed from her suffering. – Mark 5:29

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February 17, 2016

You're a Liar - The Single Girl Diaries


When I was little I was very nosey {:I get it honest, trust me:}. I remember being little and out to eat with my parents after church on Sundays. I use to love watching people. My observations of people were usually followed by a finger point and a declaration to my parents {:and half the restaurant:} on what  I had observed or thought about “those” people. I think I was generally nice, but I am sure I embarrassed my parents on more than one occasion with my ‘observations’. But my mom would always make me so mad because before I could even share my revelation with them she would interrupt and lecture me on how rude it was to point my finger.

Well, my apologies to you Mama, but today, in this post, I am pointing a finger and shouting, “YOU’RE A LIAR” - to Memory Lane.

Why are memories often so much sweeter than the moment it actually happens? It’s actually the way our brains are wired. We rarely recall memories as the actually were, but instead have added, taken away, or altered the actual event. Take my love language of ice cream for example. I have fasted from ice cream several times in my life. To be honest, there are moments in those fasts when I have the “must. eat. ice cream.” feeling. And it’s torturous! Somehow after the fast is over and while I am downing my third bowl of Ben and Jerry’s of the night I have the audacity to say “awe, it wasn’t that bad.” 

Memories are liars.

Our memories of ghost of boyfriends past are also liars. I know you would never allow your civilized, non-crazy, single girl brain to ever go to the places I have been guilty of letting mine go. But, sometimes I have taken a stroll down memory lane once or twice. You know, just for giggles. However, instead of giggles I only end up with a sad heart and longing eyes for what never really was.

We I stroll through the streets of memory lane and only see the 5 second live billboards of what was actually a long relationship. And these billboards along Memory Lane have been edited and dramatized, like all highlight reels are, to only show the good stuff and then beef the good stuff up even more. 

So here is a note to my far more sane single sister: Your memories are liars. If you are broken up from the man boy in the highlight reel, then the relationship was clearly not that good - or you would still be together. And that guy you said no to a date with for a good reason but now have not had a date in months and he is now married with 17 children - you did not make the wrong decision. Your time is coming. Memory Lane…You’re a LIAR! You are beautiful, smart, and all together lovely my darling! So if this Valentine’s Day stuff has you thinking on boyfriends of Valentine’s Day past, stop it and look forward and realize that this may be last V-Day you ever spend alone.

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February 16, 2016

When Scars Look Like Love


I remember being fairly young, around the age of five, and seeing a beautiful younger woman with a huge scar in the middle of her chest. I couldn’t take my eyes off of it. After we left I remember asking: “Mommy, why did that lady have a scar on her chest.” My mom explained to me that this woman had to have heart surgery - probably a surgery that saved her life.

I remember thinking how awesome it was. I romanticized that scar. To me it made her more beautiful because it showed how strong she must be. In my young eyes, her scar was a scar of healing and strength.

I think as Christians, God often gives us spiritual scars. Scars that cause us to look back one day and say “oh that scar, that’s my Daddy’s love.”

Being a Christian can sometimes leave you feeling like you are in one of those embarrassing hospital gowns with an awful backdraft on a cold surgery table about to be cut open and ripped into. I have come to learn that this image and feeling isn’t completely off. If you are a Christian, I am willing to bet that there is some sort of heart surgery God is performing right now that is leaving you feeling vulnerable and with your backside exposed.

The thing about heart surgery is it is a long and detailed surgery, but it is only done because something about the heart was not functioning properly. It is also done without the help of the one being operated on. The one undergoing heart surgery must be very still while the surgeon performs what only he can preform.

Spiritual heart surgery looks pretty similar. We only have to go in for the surgery because there was a problem with the way our heart was functioning that will limit or hinder our lives going forward. And our surgeon, Jesus, needs us only to "be still" {:Psalms 46:10:} while he does what only he can do. We don't need to help him we just need to be still and quiet while he performs a work of repair and restoration.

So we go into surgery. It can be long and the recovery can be excruciating. But after the surgery is done we have a heart that is suitable and sustainable for carrying out the life before us. Then, all that is left of what was once defective, is a scar. A scar that shows our daddy loved us too much us to keep us the same. A scar that will only leave you saying “That scar, that’s my Daddy’s love."

That is when scars look like love.
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February 15, 2016

Verse of the Week – Deuteronomy 8:2

This year, I have decided to commit to memorizing scripture a week. I committed to this last year, but considering there are 52 weeks in a year and I memorized a whopping 10, I would say this was a fail. So, this year I volunteered you to be my accountability partner. {:You are welcome ;) :}

Each week, on Monday, I will post my verse and a short blurb about it - whether it is some historical context that brings meaning to the verse or just my personal revelation from it. Then, I will post that baby on my mirror, on my Insta, and in my Bible and read it everyday over and over until I’ve caught it in my Spirit.

Maybe you want to memorize along with me, maybe you just want to snoop check up on me and see how faithful I am being. Either way, I am totally cool with it. But, my hope is that these weekly post will be more than just my accountability. Rather I am believing it will deposit something in you as well.

Anyways, all that to say welcome to the Verse of the Week post! Grab a cup of coffee and read on sweet, girl.

As I was reading this verse it popped out to me that though the Israelites were in the wilderness, they were on their way to the promise.

How often is this same circumstance replicated in our lives? God gives us a promise, a calling, a purpose, yet to get to the fulfillment of it we must walk through the wilderness.

The wilderness, where they we're unseen, unprepared, and uncomfortable.

Yup, that seems to sum up the wilderness pretty well to me from my experience. And let me tell you, this girl is so not a fan of those wilderness seasons.

As I read God revealed to me that those wilderness seasons are the training grounds to ensure that we are ready, prepared, and equipped for when we are released into the calling, promise, or purpose God has prepared for us.

On my journey with Jesus, I have found he is far less concerned about building my agenda, ministry, plans, or preparing a way for my calling and more interested in building me. See Jesus wants to give us the promise, but not at the expense of ourselves. In the wilderness is where he humbles and tests our character to ensure that we are people who can handle the promise, calling, and purpose He was for us.

Promises cost something – just ask any mama who prayed for a baby or any wife who prayed for a husband. It was a promise they desired, but it takes work. God wants to make sure that we are people who will count the cost and pay the price when that promise requires more of us than we originally thought.

So there you have it, week 1 of Verse of the Day. I hope it helped you, inspired you, challenged you or just made you go ‘ohhh’.

What do you say, do you want to join the challenge?

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February 11, 2016

My 3 Non-Negotiables for Simple Wright Loss



Signing up and going through Bible College has been nothing like going to college the first time to get my Bachelor’s Degree. It has been much more like character education. I have learned a lot about myself in many ways. One thing I have learned about myself is that I have an obsessive personality. 


This character trait comes with great qualities like performing and accomplishing things with excellence, religiously getting in my workouts, ensuring I do my devotionals daily - that sort of thing. One of the biggest down sides of this is the way it shows up in my eating patterns. I obsess…which is why these personality types are more susceptible to eating disorders. Hence my story with an eating disorder. So I have to be careful not to become obsessive about every crumb I put in my mouth because I can easily do that in a very unhealthy way. Instead I have committed to these 3 simple rules {:I don’t like to really use that word because it feeds into my obsessive nature too much. I prefer the word non-negotiable.:}


  • 80oz. of Water a Day {:minimum:} Ever wanted to burn calories for doing absolutely nothing? Me too! Research has shown that drinking ice water can do just that. In order to process ice cold water your body must heat up the water first causing your body to burn aprox. 1 calorie per ounce. That is 80 calories a day extra just for popping some ice in that water. 


  • Just Say No I am really, really good at saying No - remember the whole obsessive personality thing. The problem is I become obsessed with saying no to every little joy food brings and end up binge eating a week later on everything I said no to... x 100. Now, I allow myself little indulgences {:if my friends are all going for froze yogurt after church, I am going and I am getting some frozen yogurt:}, but the no may come in me not allowing myself to fill the bowl up to the top with fro-yo like I want to or put a less than stellar topping choice on. I have to tell myself no at least once a day when it comes to my food choices. It may be a second helping of pasta or the after dinner ice cream, but at least once a day I exercise my right to say no because I love my body enough to keep it healthy.


  • Absolutely NO Binge Eating I am in control of my life and my health now. Binge eating is something I use to do, but I am not that person anymore. I have made a choice. Binge eating is less about a food choice and more about a choice of who you are. This is where I let my obsessive personality work to my advantage. I allow myself to be obsessive over the fact that I am healthy and in control of my life and not obsessive over food and feeling like I am out of control. Do I still have the urge to do it? Yeah, sometimes. Do I do it? No. I have made a choice that I am not that girl anymore and after awhile the choice gets easier. 


Easy enough? It may sound “too simple”, but if you are looking to loose weight or get healthy, you did not get unhealthy or add those extra few pounds over night. You got to where you are now by making small choices that compounded into a big problem. Why not reverse the cycle and start making small choices to be healthy and let them compound into a massive push towards your health and well being. After you master these you can add three more like I am doing now. Just imagine if you added 3 new non-negotiable every two months. That would be 18 new habits in 2016! All that good compounds together just like the bad leaving you feeling healthier, stronger, and more confident.



What about you? Do you have any non-negotiables when it comes to your health? I would love to add some of your suggestions into my own life. 

February 10, 2016

The One - The Single Girl Diaries



I was scanning through Instagram earlier today and one of those hearts popped up on my feed indicating someone had liked one of my posts. It wasn’t a name I recognized so I clicked on it. It was another blogger. So I did what any good girl does while on Instagram wasting the time she should be doing something else more meaningful- I stalked her and her feed. {:Hey she liked my post first.:}


As I scrolled through, this adorable couple photo with her sitting on the kitchen counter and her fiancĂ© in front of her while they were nose to nose caught my attention. The image was so flipping adorable it was nauseating, but the caption was stunning.It was something along the lines of how she never thought she would ever get “the guy.” You know the one all the girls swoon over because not only is he one tall drink of Man Mocha but he’s also kind, generous, has ambition and definitely has a great future ahead of him. She goes on to say that though she never thought she was pretty enough, sweet enough, loving enough - essentially enough - she got “the guy”. And he’s the best thing that ever happened to her. 


I was inspired by that because it is always easy to feel that way when your friends are all buying investment properties and you are just praying to make it to 30 with a reservation for two instead of one.Then later I started to do my devotions and I asked God a question: “What is your name?” Instantly I heard back - 


“The One"

Oh yeah. Jesus, you are my one. You are the one my soul longs for. You are the one  my eyes desire to gaze into. I was so busy longing for“the one” that I forgot I have actually already found the one. I have found my souls greatest romance in my Jesus. And yes I long to one day be married, but I am not waiting for “the one” because I have already found him. He is the one who wakes up the sun to kiss my face each morning. He is the one who makes sure peanut butter is on sale at the grocery store so this college student on a tight budget can afford it. He is the one who whispers to my soul in the middle of my time with him to remind me that he is the one who will never leave me, never forsake me, and always fight for me.


I truly have found the one my soul loves. Because he is my “one” and my contentment and joy is found in him I know I am ready and good enough to one day get “the guy.” 



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